@kaystephens2672

6 months ago

They're intentionally difficult people because it gets them results. I am here because of a parent who tried to raise a mentally and emotionally deregulated child. You can only love a person so much until you realize that they mistaken love for something to get permision to not accept consequences. And today, if that capacity was just not there, and the consequences always fell onto me, then that was a very dillusional parent to just make excuses by saying he can't help it. I'm in my 60s. And I see the negative long term consequences for them taking that risk. In my opinion, they needed to take their medicine and not let it poison the lives of innocent people. And the relationships of mine and my mother's. She lived in denial of that. But I'm not. I've learned that it is not cruel to tell a person that they have a personality problem. She never took accountability for her good intention that hurt other peoples minds and futures. Sometimes you gotta accept the fact that we all just make mistakes. A person who is difficult can make you numb to other difficult people who you just end up putting up with. I was a sitting duck. Because of their emotional decision and the inability to say "I'm not qualified to raise a child with so many needs. I was adopted after him. And I don't have a mental illness. Just cptsd from their choices. And I watched this bot destroy his mother's life. She just refused to accept that. Stubborn people are sometimes just not worth the effort. You just gotta let them go. It took me years and time served with him to see that he only emotionally manipulates others with shock and awe. But I have no pity. Because that's just excuses to enable them to do what they want. To use other people.

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