@willow1809

2 weeks ago

Hey, I’m not sure who’s going to read this, but if you relate to this video , then please continue (I hope the creator is joking about a past habit and that this isn’t something they’ve done recently, but I’ve seen a lot of comments seriously talking about using this habit) I know this is done out of desperate loneliness because for whatever reason, you genuinely don’t know how to form meaningful relationships (it might be because of social anxiety or maybe it’s partly because of some toxic, albeit not intentionally malicious, habits). But I promise you , that friendship is not worth saving in the long run. It WILL fizzle out eventually, one way or another, you are merely delaying the inevitable and you are wasting both their time and your own time. It’s best to simply move on and reflect ( not in a way that involves self-hatred) and see how both your own actions and the actions of the friend led to the friendship dissolving in order to learn from your mistakes and keep them in mind in your next friendship, which I promise will be more fulfilling than your current failing friendship. It will feel lonely, it will hurt a lot, but it must be done, as failing to let go will only stop you from growing. I had a friendship like this. Ironically, I had tried ending it a couple years afterwards, but didn’t have the strength to not go back. I remember feeling like I couldn’t possibly be able to make another friend, but I ended up forming friendships later on, ones that were far more rewarding than I could have ever imagined. Though the only way this happened was by eventually moving on and also learning how my habits of holding in resentment and lack of communication had inhibited my previous friendships.

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