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I definitely shut down a lot. In cases where i can't physically remove myself, I might disassociate. A trauma response after years and years being forced to exist in a social environment where I wasn't safe (school, chaotic home life, and then work). I spend a lot of time alone now, much more peaceful.
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This affects workplace performance dramatically. The same receptors as pain go off in the brain when you are rejected or not part of the "insiders."
Due to how our brains work, this pain will affect performance, concentration, cause emtional distress etc.
Add this to the fact that "outsiders" will always be seen as less productive or just less in general; "outsiders" will have to overcome so much more to be accepted. Even if an "outsider" is doing exactly the same work and peefomrance, "insiders" will see them as less.
Another "insider" has to vouch for an "outsider" to be accepted.
We see this a lot in school days.
For adults, this happens in corporations, politics, society, and culture.
Dr. Steven Rogers explains this really well.
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Rejection for Traits is connected to shame: not being good enough as you are. Itās a big thing to be rejected for inherent traits that you cannot change.
Itās different from guilt: doing something wrong. You can do things differently, but you canāt BE different from who you are. In my perspective this causes a lot of anxiety bc you can try masking & overcompensating but it will always be therešš¼
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To shine a light i learned this week ( i am 39, better now then never) that I reject myself in situation. Yes others sometimes have that effective intention but what is my intention! And in thia vid I heard it.. these are all possible inner reactions! It happends on the inside. The situation is a treat, but I still have place in it, I can decide conxiously to take a lead in looking for "a step" forward, or in case real danger is there, forward could be leaving to, just coming from an enabled, empowered stance... that is a response, outwardly, its capable to respond.. ni perfection, with mistakes but starting on a path of learning to not fight but stand up for yourself and the other person/the situation, helping to create space instead of cutting (letting yourself) be cut out. And trust me I caught myself into 2 deathtreat situations the past two weeks all by myself, and yes I am getting help... but its a deep lesson to learn. You have a role to play, focus on that! The panic is essentially believing a kind of "I cant lie often concealed behind they wont..."
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Yeah I resenty did a 2 week warehouse logistics course with a job interview at the end of it for all those who passed and for some reason I still don't understand a 3rd of the people who were also on it and I hadn't really at any social interactions with took it upon themselves to tell me and some lad I was friendly with that he shouldn't waste time talking to me as apparently I'm the stupid, useless and the most annoying person they've very met! Which I did my best not to let them seen that it had upset me but was quite upsetting as that's how I see myself especially after getting diagnosed with aspergers but my friends and family always insist that I'm not stupid, useless or annoying but personally I believe a lifetime of always being the one everyone hates or tries to bully plus seemingly enjoys seeing me fail it all the proof needed that being alone is the easiest way to avoid becoming a target for other people's need to pick on the odd one within the group!
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@hannah-lk3oc
1 week ago
People make it seem like social rejection isnāt a big deal and you are probably ātoo sensitiveā if it bothered you. I really like this theory and the way you put it. Not only is it validating to here but it also helps me make sense of the years of hurt that seemed to feel more serious than normal.
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