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Discipline is different than punishment. You’re creating a knowledge base for reality. You’re showing that actions whether good or bad, have consequences! 100% agree with disciplining and showing what respect looks like
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I love how people say not to confuse gentle parenting with permissive parenting then go on to confuse traditional parenting with "fear based" parenting 🤦♀
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Really love your content and parenting advice. My parents, and their parents before them, used "traditional" parenting techniques - which obviously led me and my brothers to have some minor issues down the line. Its not that they were bad parents - they were great.. its just people were so ignorant of mental health, and valued tradition over actual evidence-based ideas... And then theres the whole conservative religious influence that has tarnished western parenting for the last... 1500 years.
Please, keep giving advice. Im sure some ignorant people will sneer, and their kids will suffer for it... But others will listen. And their kids will be better for it
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My kids (4 teens and a 9yo) are actually pretty well behaved and speak to me with respect. But the moment you said they never question “why”, my brow furrowed. The reason my kids are well behaved and respectful is because they ALWAYS ask why. I encourage it and we always have those discussion. I don’t want to raise young people who are blindly obedient without understanding why. That way leads to either becoming victims of abuse or rebelling and making crappy unwise choices. I want them to know why - down to their core. I want them to be able to make good choices long after I’m not there to enforce or “check in with” them. I want them to grow up treating people well because they were taught the intrinsic value of others and I want that to be a value they cant comfortably ignore as they walk through the world. I want them to know they absolutely should ask why and understand why they do the things they do and challenge authority when there’s reason to do so, respectfully if possible but necessarily if not.
Sometimes when a child is very little they need to learn to obey without questioning for their own safety - and if you normally answer “why”, I’ve found they’ll generally trust the urgent “NOW” because they know that’s out of character. That’s really valuable when they’re teens too. My kids know if they ask permission to do something and I say No and refuse to discuss “why” in the moment, then that’s a discussion for later and I must have a very good reason.
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It is possible to have children who are well behaved and not because they are afraid of you.
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Discipline =/= Punishment
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The last phase I kinda agree.. the first two I don’t… it could not be due to fear based parenting. It could just be that their kids have learned how to be respectful and act appropriately in public due to a good example set by their parents
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I disagree that it must always mean you have fear based parenting if your kids are like that. My kids were that way when little because it’s my JOB to make sure they are that way to protect them. As they age, I would explain more. We gave consequences to actions. We built the metaphorical fence very high when they were little and as they aged, we lowered the fence. They are now in their 20s, have great jobs, and are always told how respectful and hard-working they are, and we get along great and they even like to still go on vacations with me and my husband (their Dad).
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I was raised like this. And it took me until adulthood to realize it. It was a bad choice of parenting, but that is all my mom knew from how she was raised too. It makes you become and adult that is overly apologetic, people pleaser… i mean is really bad. Good thing is we can learn to change overtime, so there is hope.
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Right. Ive successfully raised two intelligent, respectful, and emotionally mature children to adulthood without ever spanking them or screaming at them. However, they were taught to RESPECT authority because that is how the REAL WORLD works. Your boss isnt going to sit you down and baby talk you every time you mess up at work...so dont teach your kids that their wants and needs are the first priority for everybody because they take that into adulthood. This is why we have adults entering college and the workforce who need "safe spaces" as if they are children...because instead of teaching them coping skills they were coddled and catered to and didnt learn to respect authority at all. The word "authority" has no meaning to them whatsoever and theyre whiny, unproductive brats.
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So my oldest (9) does things out of a fear of disappointing me. I don't know what ive done to make her think that. How do i show her that I aint gonna be disappointed?
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I would never act like a brat in public because I wasn't a jerk to others. I didn't talk back because my parents did not deserve back talk. I talked to them. Like normal people.
So they can say "my kid would never act like that in public" and not have it be about fear
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Some folks today wouldnt survive country-side mamas.
My mom got so damn good with her aim, she’d toss up a steel-toed boot with her pinky toe, kick it up behind her, while holding a basket of laundry on her hip, catch the boot in her non-dominate hand and chuck that shyt clear across the room and knock ya upside the head, all while she’s talking on the phone to grandma about a smoked pulled pork recipe.
The day she stopped that, she knew all she had to do was give you “the look” or “the tone” and you knew that the crazy ninja-mom boot chuck was comin’ your way the second you walk through that front door.
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Honestly if you want other to respect your parenting style you should respect others. Ive seen gentle parenting work once (not that I'm actively looking) and I've seen it fail hundreds of times . However, I can see that gentle parenting works for some so its up to the family. I think a lot of people would be more open to gentle parenting if people weren't always making vidoes judging others. Im beginning to associate the term with toxic people who think its my way or no way.
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My parents fr fr
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I believe that is called discipline and respect, "spare the rod and spoil the child" construction punishment is good and it teaches respect. Exaggerated punishment teaches fear. I just wish people wouldn't confuse it for only being a bad thing
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This is how we learn consequences. Cause and effect! Teach your kids problem solving skills.
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Kids should respect adults
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Not all parents with well behaved kids use fear . Some use motivation.
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@CorwinFound
3 months ago
Discipline with kids is important for safety. Walking down the street and they dash ahead, don't notice the car pulling out of a driveway, it's imperative that when I say "Stop," loudly and firmly that they do it without thinking. And the reason why it works is because I only use that command voice when I absolutely need it. 98% of the time they know they can ask questions, take some time to process/absorb, or even argue/debate (politely). But when that command voice comes out, I get instant obedience. Afterwards we'll discuss it and I'll explain my reasoning. And a few times I've apologized for over reacting. But my kids can trust that if I use that voice it's for a very good reason. And not fear of me.
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