Well we all wear the same mask that looks different on each person. Dont believe me? Compare how u act around ppl to how u act when ur alone.
I mostly keep to myself and tell ppl i dont know or trust lies. Its better to start with lies early on and tell them the truth later when they can handle and accept the truth rather than tell them the truth in the beginning and giving them the chance to hurt u. Only one way for me to trust them which i shall not say.. But its not really much about wat they can do for me or if they r valuable, rather i need to do something for them. Only personal ppl will know wat it takes for me to trust u completely and judge worthiness. I must see purity and not corruption.
And its never good to have something against that person which you can use to black mail them. That is not what i look for. Its just something that takes time and is learned without the other person even knowing u learned it. A form of manipulation? Quite possibly, but everything good requires at least a little to set it on its course. I mean, even as one grows up, you may be manipulated in order to actually steer you in the right direction.. those are life lessons which steer you. Are they bad? More often than not, no.